I had two deep mother wounds to heal.

My mother, who I physically saved from a suicide attempt when I was six years old abandoned me when she chose not to believe me for the three years of sexual molestation I experienced by her boyfriend.

I grew up with a mean stepmother who didn’t want me.

I dedicated my life to heal my childhood wounds and more than everything in the world, I wanted to be a mother myself.

I wanted to end the intergenerational trauma and not pass my wounds to my children so I dedicated my life to healing.

In my journey over the past two decades, I have walked a path less travelled and participated, as well as led countless of workshops, retreats and private sessions to find one thing in common:

We all carry the mother wound to some degree

here is why:

There is no more impactful human relationship that directly shapes us like the relationship with our Mother. From the moment of conception, everything she eats, drinks, does, and thinks has a direct effect on our development and well-being.

Our Mother forms the very foundation of who we are: our habits start as her habits, our beliefs start as her beliefs. A great deal of this is so unconscious and fundamental; it is barely perceptible yet inevitably conditions our very essence.

Our Mother is a moulding presence in our development as children, and she forms the very foundation of our emotional and psychological growth.

She impacts the comfort and safety in being intimate with ourselves when we go inwards in search of our essence. She is the primary influence on the connection we have with our emotions and whether we can feel safe expressing them.

She is the first voice in our head.

We begin life by feeling one with our Mother, unseparated.

She is the first role model for how to respond to life. She teaches us about relationships and values.

She is the primary role model for our inner landscape, the relationship we have with ourselves, at our most intimate level, including our sensuality and our sexuality.

The mother wound is the sum of all the emotional pain inflicted from the intricate and multi-layered mother-child relationship.

We all arrived here through a biological mother who had a significant effect on our life directly or even through her absence. For some of us, the mother figure that was most predominant in our life was not the one who gave birth to us and could be a grandmother, stepmother, aunt, an older sister, teacher or a foster mother.

Even if all mothers try to do the best for their children even with the purest of intentions, due to their difficulties and often because of their own mother wound and traumas they end up repeating behaviour patterns that are potentially emotionally, mentally, psychologically, socially, physically and spiritually damaging.

The Mother wound is the pain passed from Mother to her child over many generations. It contains fears, conditionings, dysfunctional patterns and false beliefs passed through genetic memory which encoded in the very DNA of the child’s cells.

The waters in the womb, transmits the infant’s, all the Mother’s thoughts, emotions and feelings. Her teachings delivered through her body language, the tone of her voice, her spoken and unspoken words, her living example and choices.

The Mother Wound contains the collective pain of being a woman in a patriarchal society with ever-challenging circumstances such as women suppression, wars, racism, poverty, even burning on the stake, passed down through generations of women. This wound also includes the myriad of the dysfunctional coping mechanisms which used to process the unresolved pain as a way of survival.

These wounds passed by our Mother have a profound impact on our lives. Without the light of our awareness, we will keep looping in the same patterns, repeating those wounds that our mothers, grandmothers and all the women before us failed to heal.

The mother wound needs to come to the front of our collective awareness if we are to heal ourselves and this planet truly. Until we are willing to face all these uncomfortable realities, the mother wound will be in the shadow, rule our life unconsciously and continue to pass to the next generations.

The Link Between Mother Wound and Divine Feminine

“Our first meeting with the Goddess is

with our own Mother”- Nunaisi

Terms like: ’embodying the Divine Feminine‘, being a ‘Goddess’ or an ‘Awakened woman’ are becoming popular around the world these days, but the truth is that we cannot embody the power of the Divine Feminine if we have not yet healed the places within us where we have felt abandoned, hurt or in exile from the Feminine. If we avoid acknowledging the full impact of our Mother’s pain on our lives, we remain to some degree, children.

For many, the very first wound of the heart was at the site of the Mother, the Feminine. And through the journey of healing the mother wound, our hearts evolve from fear and pain to a whole new level of love and gratitude, which connects us to the Divine heart of life itself.

In this way, healing the mother wound is the doorway to meet the Divine Feminine deeply.

The personal healing journey and reconnection to the heart of life, through the Feminine essence, affects the whole and supports the collective evolution of humanity.

If you feel a calling to tap into the Divine Feminine than grab my FREE masterclass (almost two hours long!) on healing the mother-wound.

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